Good day! Last time I opened up a discussion on spending time with our kids.
By no means am I trying to provoke guilt. Life tends to be very busy for everyone and everyone has his/her unique situation to deal in and find a way through.
These are the general purposes behind this post:
- To generate awareness of how you spend your time relative to your children. (Awareness is generally the first step of change—and an important seed for “laying the groundwork” for future relationships with your kids.)
- To offer from-the-trenches-suggestions to help busy parent(s) work things out in a way that works for his/her/their unique family styles/lives.
Because, folks, when it’s all said and done and those “little ones” have morphed into “big ones,” what (IMHO) will have mattered most is the effort and intention behind all you have done as a parent. Not that it’s easy, especially in today’s work-driven, achievement-oriented society.
Quick story and then I’m done (for today):
A special-ed teacher/friend mentioned a conversation she had with the parent of one of her autistic students. (Let’s remember that, among other things, autism is a developmental delay of social skills.)
The teacher discussed using dinner time as a means of practicing and building social skills with“Mom.”
“Mom”—whose two older, non-classified children are honor students who attend an elite, enter-by-testing-only public school in the area—wasted no time answering the teacher. “We don’t have dinner together. Everyone eats while they study.”
I’ll pick up from here next time.
Seize the day!
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